Who am I? | The Tale of the Lost Prince

There is a story about a prince who loses his memory and wanders far from his kingdom. He stumbles upon a group of beggars who welcome him as one of their own. Each morning, they leave for town to beg from door to door. When they return, they share their alms with the prince, who eagerly awaits their arrival. Every day, upon seeing them from afar, he runs up to them and takes something from each of their bowls.

Meanwhile, the king and queen have sent messengers throughout the land and to neighboring regions in search of their son. One day, the messengers find the prince. Overjoyed, they remind him of his true identity and the life he left behind. Slowly, the prince remembers who he really is and prepares to return to his kingdom. Before leaving, he turns to his beggar friends and asks, “Can you recall where you came from? What if you too are lost princes and have simply forgotten who you are?”

This story reflects the journey of our mind. Our mind has forgotten that it is a creation of the Divine Light, and that same Light resides within us. With this awareness, we recognize that the mind has tremendous power and infinite creative potential. Like the prince, it is meant to give, not to ask.

Seeking from others

It’s a paradox of modern life that while we work hard to achieve financial independence, we often overlook the emotional dependence we carry—seeking validation, love, and security from people, accomplishments, or external circumstances. BK Sister Shivani, a Rajyoga meditation teacher, explains this concept beautifully in one of her talks on emotional resilience:

While we take pride in being financially independent, emotionally, we go around as beggars. With both hands stretched out, we forever look to others with expectation—give me respect, give me security, give me love… do things my way so that I am happy.

BK Sister Shivani

When our expectations aren’t met, we lose our peace. We believe that unless others change, we cannot be happy. Since people can’t always meet our expectations, our happiness fluctuates, creating a rollercoaster of emotions. This constant cycle of highs and lows drains our energy and potential.

The way out is in

Wisdom traditions remind us that true happiness and peace lie within us, not outside. When we remember that our real self is born from the Infinite, we will discover our hidden reservoir of strength and power.  And when we learn to tap into this reservoir within, we discover that our true nature is to give, not to seek. The more we give as channels of the Universe, the more abundance flows through us.

In his book Dharam Kala, Jaswant Singh Parwana beautifully explains how the same inner power can take the form of ‘Moha’ (Desire/Want) or ‘Prem’ (Offering/Love). Moha is a flight toward the world of materials, while Prem is a flight toward the source of life. Moha finds joy in acquiring, while Prem finds joy in offering.

In the Mahabharata, Vidura embodies ‘Prem’. He may have offered saltless spinach to Bhagavan Krishna, but he offered something, asking for nothing in return. Similarly, despite his material poverty, Sudama offered to Krishna whatever he could – even if it were a fistful of puffed rice. In contrast, when consumed by ‘Moha’, a person may possess a lot of wealth, yet still desire more. When Krishna visited Duryodhana to dissuade him from war, Duryodhana refused to yield even a needlepoint of land. Given a choice between Krishna himself and his vast army, he chooses Krishna’s army. Those who live in ‘Prem’, like Sabari, might present only four berries to Sri Ram, but find joy in giving, not asking.

What We Seek, We Become

Why does it matter to live from a place of love? Because what we seek, we gravitate toward. Living in ‘want’ ties us down to the material world, and with every acquisition, the sense of emptiness grows. This sets off an endless cycle of wanting more. By turning toward the light within, we tap into a reservoir of love and discover we have infinite blessings to offer to the world. We learn to flow with life, allowing the Infinite to flow through us—like a wave content to lose itself in the ocean.


References
  • Talks on Rajyoga meditation by Sister Shivani
  • Dharam Kala by Jaswant Singh Parwana

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9 responses to “Who am I? | The Tale of the Lost Prince”

  1. Well said Gurpreet. Contentment can emerge only within. Nothing external to us can bring it.

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      Welcome to the blog Arun! 🙂 It is something we should probably be taught from childhood. But it is never too late. So we are trying to learn and live by these lessons now.

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    Living in ‘want’ ties us down to the material world, and with every acquisition, the sense of emptiness grows. This sets off an endless cycle of wanting more. 

    I have a question – Two days ago I went to change oil for my two-wheel. Actually it costs Rs.430. They asked Rs.500. I had to ask them questions. What to do when people cheat? Should we give with love?

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      That’s a great question! Something we face so often, We’re all learning how to respond to challenging situations, but it takes time. It’s still difficult to respond positively when faced with anger, dishonesty, or judgment. What’s important is that we keep trying until it becomes our natural way of responding.

      One piece of advice that comes to mind regarding your question is this: Our instinctive reaction might be to get angry at such behavior. The problem with anger is that it escalates the situation, and while the other person may take their time to change, we are left carrying the burden of that anger.

      A more compassionate response could be to remind yourself that we all carry both seeds of kindness and unkindness, honesty and dishonesty. Someone being dishonest is likely suffering themselves. They may act that way because of past experiences or deeply held beliefs they’ve picked up along the way.

      When you address the issue, approaching it with compassion—out of concern for the wellbeing of society, the other person, and yourself—changes the dynamic. You’ll walk away from the conversation with compassion in your heart instead of anger.

      This is a journey I’m still on, so I offer this as a fellow learner. We can keep exploring this question together and share more insights as we go.

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  3. BK Shivani ji’s statement reminds me of my spiritual guru’s discourse. He used to say that the nature of the mind is to beg for emotional needs and used to give very relatable, real-life, person next-door kind of examples that leave us amused at the kind of tricks the mind plays, putting us in a state of wanting and expecting.

    Depending on my state of being at the moment, I have experienced oscillating between the following:

    Level 1) When I have felt very connected to God, I have seen myself deriving joy in giving. That’s definitely a very beautiful state to be in.

    Level 2) While maintaining a good level of awareness, I have been able to observe my mind and be amused at its tactics – “Here goes the mind, going around carrying the begging bowl” – leaving a smile on my face without the need to resist, clearly seeing the mind as different from my true self.

    Level 3) When my energy levels drop further, and I go through episodes of feeling low, I have seen myself being a helpless prisoner of my mind.

    Level 4) Sometimes, completely drowned in the sea of ignorance, I have also demanded emotional needs from others as though it were my birthright.

    The aim is to strive to be in Levels 1 and 2 most of the time. What has helped me all these years is making it a regular practice to see my mind and its thoughts as an observer, which is exactly meditation is all about. Prayer and Bhakthi towards God have helped me access the inner, infinite support within instead of looking for support outside.

    While it is good to be in this state most of the time, my spiritual teacher has cautioned against wanting to be in the higher states all the time, as this is also an obsession of the mind. So, whenever I do slip into lower states, instead of resisting it, I use it as an opportunity to empathize, nurture compassion, and remain in a state of non-judgment towards fellow human beings going through similar experiences.

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      Thanks, Uthra. That’s very helpful. The advice about not obsessing over being at level 1 all the time is particularly useful. It reminded me of a similar insight from Thich Nhat Hanh regarding how we handle unpleasant emotions.

      Don’t be angry at your anger.

      when we are angry, we do not deny it … we hold our anger in our two arms like a mother holding her crying baby … and this alone can calm our anger and ourselves … when we are calm enough, we can look deeply to understand what has brought this anger to be, what is causing our baby’s discomfort … ”

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  4. Before leaving, the Prince turns to his beggar friends and asks, “Can you recall where you came from? What if you too are lost princes and have simply forgotten who you are?”

    Just seeing this as a story, this statement from the Prince reveals his innocence. However, a thought-provoking question arises: What would be a more pragmatic advice to his beggar friends? Would it be to fantasize about the idea that they could be lost princes, or would it be better for them to accept their current reality and work towards earning a livelihood to lead a more dignified life?

    Considering the Prince to be at one end of the spectrum, being in a position to give 100%, and the beggar friends at the other end, receiving 100%, what would be the best approach for those lying in between? Would maintaining a healthy balance between giving and receiving be more realistic for the vast majority of us?

    This blog’s message served as a good reminder to stay connected with my inner infinite resource. However, I can see that the noisy mind is the biggest hurdle to connecting within. Sometimes, it feels easier to engage with the world, solving practical problems rather than venturing inward to silence the mental chatter and uncover the treasure that lies beneath.

    Yet, I acknowledge that the recurrent theme of the blogs shared in Sabad was actually helping me reduce this mental chatter, especially the kind of desires we entertain. While I cannot say I have completely given up all desires, I have been working to disconnect the dependence of experiencing happiness from the fulfillment of desires. This has helped reduce mental chatter.

    When I first ventured into spirituality, I dedicated myself fully to inner work. Later, responsibilities and engaging with the world made me reconsider my priorities and adopt a more pragmatic approach. I tried to stay in touch with spirituality through practices like meditation. However, I realize that after shifting focus towards the external, I had used meditation mainly as a tool to gain clarity and boost productivity at work, rather than for inner growth. I seem to have forgotten how to connect within.

    Can you please share more on your learnings regarding the art of tapping into the reservoir within?

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      Balancing our internal growth with external responsibilities can be challenging—and it’s a journey we’re all on. Sharing insights with each other can make it more manageable. Here are a few practical tips that have helped me:

      Establish a Regular Meditation or Prayer Routine
      Like exercise, meditation practiced at a consistent time and place helps the mind settle more easily. A regular routine creates a kind of mental preparation, making each session more effective and grounding.

      Use Affirmations to Calm the Mind
      When mental chatter is overwhelming, affirmations can be a powerful tool. While deep meditation or reading may be difficult during these times, affirmations can refocus the mind. Practicing specific affirmations for the mindset you want to nurture is especially effective in the first and last few minutes of the day.

      Build Your Virtual ‘Sangha’ or ‘Sangat’
      Sangat—connecting with other seekers, whether present or past—serves as a revitalizing force for a seeker. When our minds waver or spirits sag, sangat reignites our inner spark. Curate a collection of articles, music, and readings from voices that inspire you—this becomes your virtual “council of wisdom” to turn to when needed. Even a quick two-minute read or listen can recenter you, and regularly drawing on this “sangat” helps build resilience and strengthens focus over time.

      Integrating meditation into Daily Chores
      Use chores time to practice affirmations, listen to music, or mentally repeat mantras. Practicing without a device sometimes helps you reduce your dependence on an external aid – e.g. mindful breathing, memorized affirmations or prayers are effective tools to keep your mind focused.

      Take a Midday Meditation Break
      Morning and evening meditations are invaluable, but a midday reset can keep your practice strong. A 10-15 minute session, say after lunch, helps you reconnect with that inner stillness and stay anchored throughout the day.

      Hope you find something here that strengthens and supports your practice!

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      1. Very insightful comments – thanks!

        The only thing that I would to edit is in the following point of view: “Daily chores: Use chore time to..”
        An alternative view is: “fully focus on what you are doing. Ensure your mind is paying full attention to that chore.”
        I wouldnt suggest distracting it with anything else.

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